50 Questions Meme, Part 4

Next installment of the 50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind (questions 10-13)

10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?
11. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do?
12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?



10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?

I go back and forth with this, because you'd hope that they were the same thing but they rarely ever are. I'd probably lean towards being more worried about doing the right things, because there are a dozen different ways to do things 'the right way' and get the same result.

11. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do?

Oh, I've had this happen before. The only way I've found to deal with this is a dose of 'Oh, I've found 'Shirley' to be quite different than that'.  Not that that usually stops the bashing, but at least I wasn't a part of it.

12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?

Life sucks. In general, life sucks. You have to do things you don't want to do, you have to be friendly with people you don't care for, listen to bosses who know less about your job than you do, you'll have teachers who will play favorites, kids won't want to play on the playground with you because of silly reasons, and there are people who are just generally mean as vipers for no good reason. You will have heartache and heartbreak and sadness and loneliness regardless. That's just life.

But. And there's always a but. But if you find a few people who are trustworthy (and you will find a couple, I promise) let them hold on to a piece of your heart. You don't have to be the belle of the ball, you don't have to have the most friends, or the most powerful friends, or the coolest friends -- this isn't the standard you should hold yourself to. Find a few people who you can trust, and let them hold a piece of your heart, be they friends/family/or lovers. A burden shared is easier. And when it comes time that you face that inevitable heartache and heartbreak and sadness and loneliness you'll know that some small part of you in protected from it because someone else is holding it. And they can and will help you get back.

13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?

Yes. People mean more than laws. Easily.